You’re not stuck. You’ve reached your full potential. I lived my life to the fullest. Now, It’s time to settle.
I have maxed out my full potential, and I did so four years ago. I realized it, but I didn’t know exactly what it was. I didn’t know how to put it into words. There were clues. One of the main clues was that nothing I did or said matched my environment and those around me. There were constant rejections and judgmental looks. Questions questioning my intelligence and my success. I remember discussing this with someone, and I said, “People are fleeing from me, opportunities are skipping me, and I’m being treated like I didn’t accomplish what I accomplished.”
From this, I had to learn to be still. I needed to be in one place, doing the same things, learning and growing. Instead, I traveled, I spent money, I planned and executed things too soon, and I forced things. I tried to go about my life in a normal way because that’s what I knew. I did things a certain way because that’s how I reached my full potential. However, once I reached that point, I didn’t stop and change the important things. Here are a few things I should have sat still for to receive the change I needed.
Change My Mindset
I always thought the same way because I had to and needed to. It helped me in every way possible in my life. From my career to my relationships. It even affected how I spent my money.
Change My Circle
I kept repeating the same cycle of the same types of friends, associates, or people I hung out with. The first sign that I needed to change this was the betrayal and jealousy I received from them. At times, I brushed it off and moved on – but in actuality, I shouldn’t have been around those types of people in the first place.
Change My Behavior
I remember always telling myself I should have done this or I shouldn’t have done that after every interaction. Whether good or bad. I know how to be. I know how to act, but I thought I could be free in every situation. Bottom line is, I didn’t live my full potential. Part of it was, it was an easier feeling at the time and it felt good.
Those moments you recognize you need to make changes are called growth. You simply need to grow up. You may say you don’t need to because of age or because of how successful you are, but time will tell and life will show you if you have more growing up to do.
Now. How have I used this to settle? I decided to settle. I want to live where I live. Have whatever relationships I have. Have the career, finances, and living situation I desire. That’s been my goal from the beginning, but I didn’t go about it the right way.
I wrote a few blogs discussing my journey:
I was determined to settle at age thirty-five, and I did. I just didn’t settle in the right place, around the right people and opportunities. Now, I am back in New York, settling, and starting over. The one thing that kept me moving forward was knowing what I wanted the entire journey. For those of you who are trying to get over this hump, you are not alone. If this is it for you, sit back and enjoy your life. If it isn’t, you’ll find out. You got this! It’s never too late to use what you accomplished and learned to create the life you always wanted.
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